So that time of year is coming, that time when we look back at the previous year and plan ahead for the future, and for a lot of us (if you are anything like me!), we make unachievable goals for the new year! Well, that and the inevitable pressure from others to have mammoth life changing New Years Resolutions! Been there, got the teeshirt! So how do we set goals (or resolutions) that we can keep and achieve?Here is my top five guide to achievable New Years Resolutions1) Do Something you want to doChoose something that you really want to do, not something you feel pressured into by peer pressure, or something that everyone else does, i.e. do you really want to give up smoking? I mean do you REALLY want to do it, or is it something you feel you should do, because everyone else is doing it at that time of the year? The First step is do something because YOU want to2) You can do it, no matter what it isFollowing on from Number 1, if you really want to do something, no matter how hard it is, you can do it, and you have to believe you can do it, if you want to give up smoking, change your career, climb Mount Everest, swim with Dolphins, jog more, paint whatever, YOU CAN DO IT!3) It's okay to lapseFollowing on from Number 2, no matter how big your goal, or how small, you must break it down into managable steps. Some people can just quit smoking on the 1st of January, or start a gym course, or give up chocolate and never eat it again through sheer will power. But for the rest of us, having a bar of chocolate on the 3rd means we have broken the resolution, and revert back to normal. The key is, if you lapse, it is okay!! Just realise that it is a lapse and say to yourself 'I lapsed', but I am carrying on.....4) Small is the new bigReiterating the notion that you need to set small goals, you can change your life in an instant, but only if you decided to do small things. You can't change your career overnight, but you can put in place the decision to change your career in an instant....it is that instant that you decided that you want to look for something else, the moment you start investigating something else, that is the moment of change and then everything else will follow, it is the same for other resolutions....the moment you decide not to have a cigarette, is the moment of change, you just have to build on that....and refer back to point 3!5) It's is yours...you own itDon't worry what other's say, if it is what you want to do, you should do it. Remember there will be those who encourage you, and those who will taunt you, listen to both, but ultimately ignore both. Listen to your voice, listen to what you want, it's your goal, your resolution, you own it, don't be swayed from the path!Good luck out there!Peace!
Don't fear the fear
Just think for a second...what is actually stopping you doing the things you want to do? Is it the little voice in the back of your head saying...you can't, you aren't ready, you shouldn't, you aren't qualified, what will the neighbours say etc etc. Well that is a primordial brain response that is telling you that you are fearful.But why? Well it is your brain telling you that you shouldn't do something just in case you get laughed at, or mocked, or fail....and that is it.....the thing that may be stopping you really living your life, doing what you always wanted is a little niggling brain response. But if you are doing what you want, enjoying every second, feeling fulfilled...who cares if someone is laughing at you (because no matter what you do, someone will always try and put you down)....because ultimately you are having the last laugh!Silence the fear, but just doing it!Peace
It only takes a second....
....to change your life!I guess that sounds like an outlandish statement.....and also something you would read in one of those glossy self help books, that ultimately doesn't help. But if you think about it....for a second (no pun intended), it actually does only take a second, and that is the second when you decide that you actually want to change your life, and the next second when you decide that you are going to change your life....once the seed is planted, then you really can do it.Ofcourse the action of actual change will take much longer...weeks, months, or even years, but the decision to do it....take a second.Are you going to change your life this second?Peace
Let Go and Live Tip 5
Tip 5 – Try something newGoing to your usual coffeeshop/food establishment....do you usually order the same thing, or same few things. Why not try something different next time, perhaps the first thing on the menu that captures your eye. It could open up a whole new world for you.Peace =@)
STOP READING THIS NOW!!!
Just came across this interesting article about the internet and happiness! Basically, I guess the key is to strike a happy balance between cyberspace and realspace. So stop reading this blog post now!! Get out and talk to someone :) (Then come back and read some more....of course!!)Peace!
2010 evaluation
So, we are more than half was through the year!How is it going for you? Have you managed to stick to your resolutions? Well if it is any consolation, for those of you that haven't, I haven't really either.I decided to have a half year re-evaluation of the year, and to be honest 2010 has been pretty good so far, as I mentioned, I have slipped up on a few of the resolutions, so now it is time refocus and try and achieve them before the end of the year!I don't think that resolutions should always have to start and end on 1st of January, any time is good! The best thing about having a mid year re-evaluation is that you can focus in on what is important to you now at this minute. Things are also different in August than they are in December, so it gives you a fresh perspective from a different year point. For example, the weather is different, so this may have an impact on what you want now.I would suggest that you take some time, go sit in your favourite place to think and re-evaluate your year, I am sure it will do wonders for you!Peace
Playing for change
Sometimes you come across things which just make you smile and feel so much better about life in general, as well as just making you feel warm inside for the rest of the day. It just shows the power of music! I came across this quite a while ago and have been meaning to spread the word for some time...so here it is! I hope it brings a smile to your day....
Sometimes you come across things which just make you smile and feel so much better about life in general, as well as just making you feel warm inside for the rest of the day. It just shows the power of music! I came across this quite a while ago and have been meaning to spread the word for some time...so here it is! I hope it brings a smile to your day....